Complaining might feel good in the moment, but it doesn’t solve anything. The more you complain, the more stuck you become. It’s unproductive, toxic, and drains not just your energy, but also the energy of the people who care enough to listen. Especially those who try to help, only to realize their efforts are being wasted.
There are two kinds of people when it comes to complaining. One group complains to get something off their chest, moves on, and does what’s best for them. Then there’s the other group I call the serial complainers. These are the ones for whom complaining is second nature, and they’ll never take action to change anything.
A big reason people don’t take action is because they lack confidence. They wait for the right moment or for everything to feel perfect before making a move. And worse, sometimes they use their past experiences, upbringing, trauma, or setbacks, as excuses for not acting. They get stuck in a version of themselves defined by those situations, holding onto a victim mindset.
But here’s the truth: Confidence doesn’t come before action. It comes from it. Taking that first step, even if it’s scary or uncertain or is filled with limiting beliefs, is how you build the confidence you’re waiting for.
Yes, it’s hard.
Change is uncomfortable. And stepping out of your comfort zone can feel overwhelming. But staying where you are and wishing for something better is a losing game. Sometimes you just have to push yourself, take the risk, and exercise the power to change your story. It’s cathartic.
Akkshaya Varkhedi 